Debating with an opponent or dealing with confrontation can generate unwanted emotions; instead, remain calm and convince with logic to get your point across and win your case. Stay focused by doing your research and having all your facts in check. Avoid emotional outbursts that you’ll later regret, by learning how to stay centered, even when triggered. Making a convincing argument without emotion is a skill that requires patience and practice.
Logic vs. Emotion
Emotion is energy in motion, which makes people take notice; yet, an argument solely based on emotion typically comes across as unconvincing and lacking any real logic. According to West Side Toastmasters, a speech is considered logical if the evaluator agrees with the argument and emotional if the evaluator disagrees. Make a convincing argument without using emotion, by appealing to your opponent’s logic and reason. Allow him to draw an agreeable conclusion from the factual evidence you present.
Just the Facts
Plausible facts are the basis for a convincing argument; they enhance your credibility without the use of emotion. Expert opinions in the form of testimonies and statistics help remove doubts from your opponent's mind. A testimony can be in the form of a quote, interview or endorsement from a credible person. Statistics are numerical proof for your position. Verify ahead of time that the statistics pair with an individual case study and are backed with credible research.
Center and Carry On
Reacting quickly to emotional triggers may cause negative emotions to spiral out of control. According to Dr. Carmen Harra, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, when push comes to shove, you can take control of your emotions and stabilize the overwhelming urge to lash out by taking a deep breath. Continue to breathe deeply until you feel your muscles relax and heart rate return to normal. Affirm silently that the feeling is only temporary.
Persuade Don’t Dissuade
Overbearing opinions and shouting turns people off; instead, negate emotion by speaking softly with control. Being convincing involves calmly listening to your opponent and validating his concerns. Accusing your opponent of being wrong will come across as emotional; instead, back up your statement with facts. Stay stoic and stick to your argument even if your opponent tries to veer you off course by changing the subject, which might be a ploy to make you emotional.